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I got home from work one morning around 4:45 am. Typically, I’d crash into bed straight away, but, for whatever reason, I felt pretty awake. So, I got on my MacBook.
I opened an article I bookmarked earlier in the day. It must’ve been something I saw while scrolling through the Yahoo! homepage because it was a catching DailyMail headline that got my attention. DailyMail. Gross, I know.
“Is THIS the secret to happiness? Blogger reveals the 15 things you need to give up to feel content – including excuses, fear and control”
I’ve never considered DailyMail the most reliable of news sources, so I approached this one with a side-eye. Thankfully, it took only a few seconds’ glance to see that they linked the original blog to the article.
“15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy” is a blog post written in 2011 by blogger and personal development guru Luminita D. Saviuc of Purpose Fairy. The post was so popular that it was shared 1.3 million times on Facebook. It’s also the basis of a book she wrote of the same title, which has a 5-star rating on Amazon!
I read her blog post and quickly understood why it went so phenomenally viral. The 15 things are behaviors literally all of us can relate to in one way or another.
15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy
- Give up your need to always be right.
- Give up your need for control.
- Give up on blame.
- Give up your self-defeating self-talk.
- Give up your limiting beliefs.
- Give up complaining.
- Give up the luxury of criticism.
- Give up your need to impress others.
- Give up your resistance to change.
- Give up labels.
- Give up on your fears.
- Give up your excuses.
- Give up the past.
- Give up attachment.
- Give up living your life to other people’s expectations.
As cognizant as I am of my own state of mind, there are still behaviors on Luminita’s list that I’m guilty of doing. 1, 3, 4, 6, and 12 rang truest to me, but still, her piece was like an epiphany. Frequently do I think about life and ask myself if I’m happy, which I think I am. But then, I thought about it. I mean, I thought about it.
Maybe I’m not as happy as I thought. Maybe I’ve come a long way from where I was before, but still, have a way to go before achieving authentic happiness. Considering the virality of her post and popularity of her book? Many people feel the same way or at least similar.
Dose of Inspiration
The post is a solid reminder that we have more power and control than we think. Often do we blame our misfortunes on surrounding circumstances when, sometimes, all it takes is a change of habits.
Some of us choose to live in the past or let it haunt or define us when every day’s a new opportunity to change the narrative. And I know some of us think we have to be right, especially when it comes to relationships. You’re not alone. I’m guilty, too, sometimes!
Luminita’s words of wisdom are as simple as they are inspiring. Not only is it okay to take a step back, do some self-evaluating, and allow yourself to let certain things go, it’s recommended. You most certainly can teach yourself new tricks. The question is, are you willing to take that leap?
What’s stopping you from being happy and what are five things you could give up today to make yourself a happier person?
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